by Leo Abdella
1. Calling to mind your accomplishments can help you more hopeful. Why? They’re a reminder that good things have happened in the past and are likely to do so again down the road.. So take a step back and pay attention to how you appear to others. Peruse a list of achievements, such as your resume. Read over written compliments you’ve received, like references or performance reviews. Or pull out old awards. (Yes it’s O.K. to go back as far as High School.)
2. Keep upbeat reminders online; Create a board on pinterest.com featuring inspirational photographs or posters. (Think neat intentions, happy children and you-can-do-it expressions.) Encourage friends and family members to comment on them to provide you with even more positive support. Looking at cheerful pictures can give you a lift, and often that’s all you need to get an optimistic mindset.
3. Introducing absurdity into even the most humorless situation can push pessimistic thoughts aside. When I go into the hospital room of a sick child, I’m a total goofball. I wear footie pajamas and Easter Bunny teeth while singing “Old Macdonald.” Within minutes, my wacky behavior transform a worried room into a place of hopeful thinking.
4. Anytime I undertake a new challenge, whether it’s learning to knit or solve a Sudoku puzzle, I’m optimistic that I will ultimately succeed, And the more I try things, the more confident I am that I can overcome obstacles. It’s made me a stronger person and better in my comedy routines. When I’m onstage, I often ask someone in the audience a question. I’m never sure of what that person is going to say, but I tell myself that I can deal with whatever comes. And then I find a way to mold the response into something funny.
5. The words we use, both with others and in our thoughts, help shape our perception of the world. So try to rid your vocabulary of always and never, since they usually don’t reflect reality. And bump-up any adjectives you use to their most positive form. When asked how you are, don’t respond “Fine.” Be excited and say “Great” or “Wonderful.” Also, when talking about your daily life, choose action verbs. Say, “I gained three new clients today,” instead of stating something passively like “My business is doing well.” Speaking more enthusiastically attracts sanguine people, and more opportunities will naturally come your way, brightening your outlook on life.