Not happy with your reflection or brimming with body confidence? Unsurprisingly, you’re not alone. But sadly there are too many women are embarrassed with their bodies and giving their figure the thumbs down. New research from the University of Queensland shows that about 80% of Australian women are unhappy with their body image.
Everyone and everything are moving around me at light
speed. I am sure that some days I must look like one of
those die hard monks in Tiananmen Square, standing at the
epicenter of a busy intersection like an anomaly exhibiting
her humanity. My arms are at my sides, my posture is
upright, my eyes are closed, and I have a look of peace
Want to look and feel confident, even when you’re quaking in your boots? Strike a pose, say researchers at Northwestern University.
Sit back in your seat with one arm stretched across the top of your chair, your chest out, and your ankle crossed over your knee. Did you just feel a drop in anxiety and a surge in feelings of competence? Turns out that simply placing your body in postures that project power triggers two key hormonal changes. When researchers assigned study subjects certain postures (expansive or constricted) and roles (manager or subordinate), it was the seated posture that gave people the biggest shot of confidence. “The position raises levels of testosterone, a hormone that drives us to take action,” explains author Adam Galinsky, Ph.D. “At the same time, it reduces cortisol, a stress hormone.”
Protecting Yourself from Verbal Assaults
By Michelle Burford
O, The Oprah Magazine | From the March 2003 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
It comes out of the blue—a catty remark, a veiled put-down, a blatant backstab. So, what’s the best defense against wolves in sheep’s clothing?
Near the top of my list of annoyances—right there under people who leave really long voice mails but don’t give a calback number—is a mega-peeve: Engaging in catfights. I don’t even like to think about them, so please allow me to boil my last near-rumble-in-the-ring down to short scenes. First: I find myself utterly bored, so I start a book club with friends. After three sessions of patchy participation, I throw out provocative questions just to crank up the debate. A week later, reports hit the girl-gossip chain that I’m a know-it-all who should be “dethroned.” I realize whose campaign this is (she and I have history) and chuck it in the bin marked: Ignore This. Until the meeting when, as I’m exiting my living room to refill the bowl of stale popcorn, Suspect Number One says (she thinks out of earshot), “Yes, please go—we could use one less smart-ass in the world.”
1. Just as a seed contains all it needs to sprout, so are you already equipped to thrive.
2. You can’t grow without pushing your limits.
3. See your mistakes not as personal flaws, but as the source of your most valuable life lessons.
4. Think of money as energy; use it to empower, not control, your life.
5. Every moment of suffering brings an opportunity to build resilience
6. With each challenge comes new growth. Engage in rewarding efforts.
7. Missteps are part of any process. Stay focused on where you’re headed.
8. Find your direction in life by looking where you want to go, not where you don’t.
9. Know your worth — and accept nothing less.
10. Make this the day you stop dreaming and start doing.