Tag Archives: Happiness

One More Reason To Smile…

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We know, it’s morning. Asking you to smile before your AM coffee is as preposterous as asking you to do a triple back flip for the gold right now. But you may be surprised — even a fake smile can go a long way.

In a happy happy study that’s about to appear in the journal Psychological Science, researchers have found that smiling — any kind of smile — is a sure way of reducing stress.

Doctoral student Tara Kraft and Sarah Pressman, Ph.D., of the University of Kansas, grouped 169 university students and gave them facial expressions training, reportsPsychCentral.com. You know how there’s a the genuine, warm smile that wrinkles up the sides of your eyes and then there’s the pretentious, stiff kind that only works the muscles around your mouth? In this particular case, chopsticks were involved to help create both.

The students were divided into three groups — those whose chopstick gave them a neutral facial expression, those who were made to have a standard grin, and those with a Duchenne smile (that’s the scientific warm for “real smile.” Go figure). “Chopsticks were essential to the task because they forced people to smile without them being aware that they were doing so,” explains PsychCentral.com. “Only half of the group members were actually instructed to smile.”

The happy hippos then had to engage in stress inducing activities, fun stuff like drawing with their non-dominant hand through a mirror (aah!) and sticking their hand in an ice bucket (then again, in this weather…). Throughout the whole thing they had to A) keep the chopsticks in their mouths, B) their heart rates were monitored, according to TheAtlantic.com.

The results confirmed what we’ve all learned from years of fake smiling to our frenemies: any kind of smile is good for you, your social status, and apparently your heart. Those with the neutral facial expression were most stressed out (was it perhaps because everyone around them had chopsticks holding up their lips?!), those with regular, lame grins had lower heart rates (meaning less stressed), and those with the sweet, natural Duchenne smiles did best and were most relaxed.

“The next time you are stuck in traffic or are experiencing some other type of stress you might try to hold your face in a smile for a moment,” Dr Pressman told Telegraph.co.uk. “Not only will it help you ‘grin and bear it’ psychologically, but it might actually help your heart health as well.”

The lesson we should all take from this? Smile. Even right now, even before your non-decaf, extra foam, skim soy latte. It’ll make the day that much easier.

From: theblush.com

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The Most Important Skill to Master from Zen Habits…

Post written by Leo Babauta

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If you’re like me, you are constantly learning new skills — gardening, carpentry, pizza-making, languages, sports, and so on. And I think this is a fun and wonderful thing to do.

But what’s the most important skill?

That’s debatable. I think compassion is a huge one, as is mindfulness. I’d go with those two any day of the week.

But if I had to pick just one, it would be this: learning to be happy with yourself.

That seems too simple, to trite! Too mushy and New-Agey! And I’ll grant all of that, but I stand firmly by my pick.

Why? The answer has to do with how this one thing can affect everything else in your life. If you are not happy with yourself, or your body, you become insecure. You think you’re not good enough. You fear being abandoned and alone. You do lots of other things to compensate, and these lead to problems.

So many of the problems people have stem from this one thing — being unhappy with themselves (often in the form of being unhappy with their bodies). Let’s take a look at why, and then look at some ideas of how to master the skill.

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Be…

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“You don’t have to let the surroundings and occurrences of your world bring you stress. You can choose to give them love and appreciation.

Instead of handing out judgments about every little frustration, annoyance and disturbance, you can exude peace and positive purpose.

Instead of letting life get to you, let real, authentic joy flow forth from you.

You are perfectly capable of being ever peaceful, even though you may not always be in peaceful surroundings. You are easily and naturally able to be continually positive, regardless of what may come your way.

The quality of your life in every moment is your decision. Peace is not a place or even an external condition, but a choice of how you are.

Let go of conflicting thoughts about how life is supposed to be.

Live life simply and purely as you choose to be.”

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10 Thoughts…

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1. Some of the best inner journeys start with the passport – stamped kind. (Pass the in-flight peanuts.)

2. When our life stories start to sound predictable, it’s time for a re-write.

3. Overrated: multitasking…Underrated: unitasking.

4. Summer tomatoes: the universe’s way of reminding us the good-for-you food tends to be delicious.

5. Midwives—of babies; ideas, peace—do amazing stuff.

6. Expanding the mind: always a cool thing—so what if it sounds a little too ‘60s-trippy.

7. Perpetually good advice from James Brown: “Get up offa that thing-and dance ‘til you feel better.”

8. Running on the beach beats trudging on a treadmill every time. (Just sayin’.)

9. Ever notice how people brighten up when you recognize their efforts?

10. There’s a reason why nature is sometimes called vitamin N.

 

From Whole Living Magazine

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21 Suggestions For Success by H. Jackson Brown Jr.

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1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.

3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

6. Be generous.

7. Have a grateful heart.

8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

12. Commit yourself to quality.

13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige,
but on relationships with people you love and respect.

14. Be loyal.

15. Be honest.

16. Be a self starter.

17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.

18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things
you didn’t do more than the ones you did.

20. Take good care of those you love.

21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

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Martha Beck’s 7 Steps to Creating the Life You Really Want…

A simple guide to mapping out the journey of your lifetime.

I read this article recently in O Magazine and found it a clever way of practicing introspection. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did…

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Odysseus just wanted to go to Ithaca. No, not the one in upstate New York—the one in ancient Greece. He dreamed of it the whole seven years he spent trapped on the island of the nymph Calypso. Eventually the pitying gods ordered Calypso to free him, at which point he managed to build a boat and set out on what he hoped would be a brief and pleasant journey.
Ha.
At every turn, Odysseus’s travels were filled with surprises. He conquered monsters at sea only to find worse ones waiting on land. He encountered seductions that sent him half mad with longing. Finally, in the Land of the Dead, he got clear directions from a seer who, oxymoronically enough, was blind.
Does this ring any bells for you? Maybe you, too, feel stranded in your life, awash in a turbulent sea, or lured by the Siren song of a terrifying love. Or maybe you just hope to experience Winnipeg someday, if only for a long weekend. Fortunately, you have your own internal “blind seer”. It can feel its way into the future and draw you a map. I mean literally. Our project today is to help you create a map of your own epic tomorrows—a magically morphing guide that will get more detailed and accurate as you travel.

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Quote…

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“I still walk around some mornings and look at the world and think, ‘Oh my God. This is so fantastic, and there’s so many opportunities to do good and to be happy.’”
–Pulitzer-Prize winning writer Anna Quindlen on growing older and living a spiritual life.

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5 Ways You Can Buy Happiness…

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Researchers have spent decades examining the big question of whether money buys happiness. Studies from huge international surveys, including interviews with villagers in India and samples of Americans from all walks of life, point to the same conclusion: Money is, indeed, a small but important contributor to happiness. One way you can derive happiness dividends from your dollars is by making sure you spend your discretionary money—even in small amounts—in ways that are more likely to produce a sense of well-being.

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15 Things…

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How does one become a butterfly?” she asked. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.

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Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

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is your home making you happy?

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Places have power—not only the physical power of sheer presence, but the emotional clout to alter our moods. Of course, the converse is also true: We have power over places. If we don’t take advantage of that fact, we’re squandering a major opportunity to bring positive energy into our lives. What luck, then, that you happen to know the world’s leading authority on creating an environment that nurtures your most contented self: you. By tapping your instincts and noting your reactions, you can begin to create a home that will make you happier—right now.
Take a Virtual House-Tour
To begin, grab a pen and print out this worksheet. Then picture yourself heading home after a day of working, attending yoga class, or whatever. Your house is in its usual state of orderliness—or disarray—though at the moment no one else is home. As you imagine walking up to your front door, notice your mood. Are you feeling tense or relaxed? Are you happy—or anxious, angry, or depressed? As you walk in, do you feel relief, excitement, anxiety, dread, joy, or despair? Briefly describe your feelings below.






Continue to pay attention to your emotional reactions as you visualize entering the house. Envision yourself touching the wall to your right and walking through your entire home. This “hands-on” approach will help you to remember to visit spaces you might skip if you merely formed a mental picture of each room. We tend to forget about places that make us feel uncomfortable; the discipline of mental wall-touching ensures you’ll include them.
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